Getting engaged is a major milestone in a relationship. I’ve not only been engaged before, I’ve been married before, and – spoiler alert – it didn’t turn out that well. I got married when I was 22, a time when I personally wasn’t mature enough to be married. I didn’t know myself well enough to spot that immaturity then. Now that I’m almost 10 years older and in a happily committed relationship, I know better. I know that simply loving someone isn’t enough for a successful marriage.
A lot of people love each other, but couples that succeed in maintaining a truly happy and life-long marriage are rare. That’s because getting married isn’t about the dress or party or flower arrangements. It’s about putting in the work day in and day out for the rest of your lives. If you feel like your partner is getting ready to propose or you’ve talked about getting engaged, here are 11 questions that I’ve learned are absolutely key to determining whether or not you and your partner are ready.