Planning a wedding is no easy feat. From the very first moments of reveling in the engagement excitement to the actual big day, there are so many decisions and hurdles you’ll face along the way. Should you have the destination wedding you’ve always dreamed of? Is it really worth tackling so many Pinterest-inspired DIY projects? We tapped an expert to share some tips and tricks to make everything as seamless as possible. Keep reading for 16 “I do” secrets you need to know from wedding planner and event pro Jennifer Brisman, including the things that are often forgotten about when planning (gasp) and what little things you can probably skip out on – even if your mom thinks otherwise.